As a guy, I went from a Lexus LS600HL to a Pacifica Hybrid... My wife said, "It's your
car, buy whatever you want as long as I don't have to drive it."
She drives an RX450H... or at least she did
. For some reason she keeps driving the van even when she has the choice of either!
Frankly, I made the leap because I could get something large and practical that wasn't ugly but now gets amazing MPG and is the largest plug-in PHEV you can buy. I was looking at Tesla's etc but needed something that could make a 2 hour jump between cities (which we do every week) and then be able to drive a good distance once we got there... Tesla couldn't cut it without stoping for 40 mins at a supercharger.
Once we started driving it, it's been amazing. Easy to get into, loads of space, a third row with actual room for humans, as many tech features as my Lexus, and many luxury touches. Yes it's not quite as smooth and quiet as the Lexus, but its 80-90% there..
Regarding the stigma, frankly I travel to Asia quite a bit and minivans are the typical limo around there. They are super nice, decked out with luxury (more so than in the USA) and there is no stigma whatsoever about them. This is what really swayed me. As well I feel that I've reached a point in my life where I don't care what people think of me as I go down the road... I could easily get a Porsche or a BMW to tool around in on the weekends but it's just not a priority right now. Before this, I've had BMW 7 series, Infinitis, a 300ZX twin-turbo, and an older Mercedes... They were nice cars, but the Pacifica is much more roomy.
Ultimately, I think this stigma will go away once we get closer to autonomous driving... when that day finally comes, people won't want cramped cars but living rooms on wheels.. hopefully this will make vans come back in style and be even more luxurious than the Pacifica.