If you really don’t need the space and extra seating (I see that you are considering a Rivian), why don’t you consider a Tesla Model Y, which is available in a couple months if you book now. It’ll be cheaper than a Rivian to buy, cheaper than a Pacifica or prime to operate and you get supercharging at really low rates in case you need to go on a trip (compared to Rivian). May be your wife can get over it’s looks too.
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