winner winner chicken dinner!
So the cable finally arrived and it worked! The screen came on and showed the radio was locked. I input the lock code that I received from a friend and it unlocked the radio. My friend did tell me that if you start the car and wait long enough the lock code would go away. I was impatient and couldn't wait plus I had the code so...as
@Sethmeister had stated, doing anything with uconnect services breaks android auto and you either have to wait for the van to fully go to sleep or you can pull and reset fuse F76 under the hood and that resets it. Everything else works perfectly so far. I'll update this thread if I experience any issues. I'm finally 100% satisfied with the van. My only regret about getting a 17 was the lack of android auto.
I ordered the display and processor from
http://www.car-part.com. I'm guessing stock # AX5097 will work but I'm not sure why it says no nav and xm radio.
The cable is
https://www.rfstreet.com/ch_contentd.asp?id=3252. It's pretty long in it's standard size and it looks like you can request a shorter size than the standard. I would say one foot is plenty.
I'm guessing the orange cable that isn't used is the 3g data cable so it has no place on the new processor. it wont pug into the new unit because each color coded connector has its own profile so it's not accidentally plugged into the wrong port. I don't know if you can get a cable that has an orange connector on one side and whatever color the 4g connector is on the other side and if the data would actually work. I don't care about any of those services so I'm not putting any effort into figuring it out at this time.